Wednesday, February 18, 2009

The Story

October 6th 2008 - A positive pregnancy test! We were SO excited.

The pregnancy was going great. I had bad morning sickness (well, all day sickness) but the baby and I were otherwise very healthy.

December 23rd 2008 - The first appointment with my new OB doctor. I previously had a midwife but my mom and husband talked me out of doing the homebirth for my first pregnancy. I loved my new doctor though! This was the day we first heard the baby's heartbeat. It was strong and perfect. Beating in the 160's.

January 22nd 2009 - Second appointment with OB. I was 18 weeks and 5 days pregnant at this time. Perfect heartbeat again, beating in the 140's. Dr. made a guess that the baby was a boy.

We were supposed to have the 19/20 week ultrasound on January 26th to find out the gender. But due to my sickness I had been off work for a while and my job had to let me go. So we changed to u/s date to February 4th because of the change in insurance.

February 4th came and Michael and I were super excited. My sister (who is due June 17th, just 3 days before I was) found out the day before that she was expecting a girl. We arrived at the Dr's office and I hopped up on the table. The tech looked a little confused as she watched the screen. She left for a few minutes and came back with a doctor that we hadn't met before. They looked at the u/s screen for a long time without ever saying anything. Finally I asked if everything was okay.

"We aren't seeing a heartbeat" she said.

"Come back tomorrow morning to talk with your doctor"

Everything after that was a blur. Michael and I prayed all that night and we just knew that a mistake had been made and Thursday morning at the appointment our dr. would assure us that everything was okay. It didn't happen that way though. I insisted that my dr. do another u/s. She did and there had been no changes. The baby's heart had not miraculously started beating again. We decided that I would check into the hospital on Friday at 5:00 pm to start the induction.

February 6th -7th 2009 - We checked into the hospital Friday night and started IV's and Cervadyl. Saturday morning my Dr. started the induction with Cytotec. I didn't really go into labor until about 4 pm. I got an epidural at 6 pm and delivered little Dylan Thomas at 10:20 pm.
As soon as he was born the Dr. knew why he passed away. His little umbilical cord was twisted very tight.

Dylan weighed 2.4 ounces and was 6 3/4 inches long.

We held him and loved him for a while. Then the nurses took him to clean him up. We had a photographer come from Now I Lay Me Down To Sleep and she took some beautiful pictures.

Dylan's funeral took place Tuesday, February 10, 2009.


  1. I am so sorry for the loss of your beautiful son. His tiny body reminds me so much of our daughter. She was only 4.4oz and 8.5 inches long at 18 weeks when I went into labor. Hugs to you! Feel free to come by and say hello at my site and know that I am always here for you if you need to talk. I am glad that you got the chance for NILMDTS to come and take pictures, noone told us about them till months later.

  2. I too and deeply sorry for the loss of little Dylan. We lost our precious daughter at 23 weeks 3 days on 1-4-09. She was 14.8 oz and 10 1/2 inches. Your pictures are beautiful. I am so glad NILMDTS was able to be there for you...unfortunately, the photographer was unavailable the day Zoe died. Hugs to you.

  3. As I read your story I was in tears. Although we lost our baby at 12.5 weeks, I can not imagine the sadness that follwed what you went through. I am so terribly sorry for your loss. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your husband. I will also be praying that you are blessed with a happy and healthy baby one day hopefully soon! ((HUGS)) to you my dear!

  4. beautiful thanks for sharing hun.. Leia should be 4 months old now. 4 months old.. Had I just went to the dr's when I said I thought I should she would be alive I can feel it.

    They came in and said no heart beat also... Then i was told you have to deliver.. what??what some cruel joke eh>